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How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!
12/20/2011 - Eileen Hopkins

A dear friend  and brother-in-law passed away yesterday.  In speaking with my sister, she shared stories about his last moments: a wonderful dinner with his two daughters a week ago, finishing the old-fashioned, French Canadian cradle he was building for his expected first grandchild on Monday, buying and decorating their Christmas tree on Tuesday and spending a full two hours visiting with his youngest daughter catching up on her recent trip to Nicaragua to help out in a maternity hospital there and, then, a trip to the emergency room and death. 

She is still caught up in those moments immediately after losing a loved one and preparing for the funeral and all it entails.  She said she felt like she was on a bridge and was so fearful of what was on the other side - walking toward a life without her husband.  Then, she posted the following quote today that had been sent to her by a close friend.  I knew I had to share it with my WE friends - especially for those who have lost a loved one.  May it lessen your sorrow.

     A dear friend sent me this lovely quote by Henry Scott Holland this morning............. "Death is nothing at all. It does not count. I have only slipped away into the next room. Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was. I am I, and you are you, and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by the old familiar name. Speak of me in the easy way you always used. Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household name it always was. Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was. There is absolute and unbroken continuity. What is this death but a negligible accident? Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just round the corner. All is well. Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost. One brief moment and all will be as it was before. How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we shall meet again! 

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12/20/2011 Joanne Bolivar from West Linn OR wrote:
That was beautifully put and in time it will be embraced to the fullest extent. We try to rush sorrow and it has it's own life. Eventually life will be filled with laughter. Sorry for everyone's missing someone through death especially this time of year. Thank you for sharing during this time of sorrow.
12/21/2011 Metta Roberts from Truth or Consequences NM wrote:
Eileen~ I was so into 'my and me' stuff I failed to respond to your post. I am so sorry about your brother in law- and send prayers for comfort, love and support to his wife and children, and you. Sudden death is so hard to grasp- no time to 'prepare' (although I don't think we ever really can prepare). May the peace we hope for, especially during this Christmas season, envelope your family and give you rest.
12/21/2011 Janet Glaser from Fremont MI wrote:
This filled my heart especially after recently losing my sister-in-law. Thank you for sharing and I am so happy you found comfort in this quote also. My thoughts and sympathy to you and your family.
12/24/2011 Suzanne Caplan from PA wrote:
These words of comfort have such power and I am grateful that you took the time to share them. I will keep them to share with others. Thank you.

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