7/9/2008 - Rebecca Fishel Bright
They've found me.
My High School reunion committee.
In spite of having my parents still living at the same address since 1956, it seems that I've been "lost" to the reunion committees down the years. I knew about the 20th, but I was moving from Chicago to Albany that weekend. I had no idea about the 10th and 30th. Go figure.
But, thanks to Facebook, now I'm getting all kinds of e-mail from people I haven't thought of for 40 years... well, to be honest, some of them I NEVER thought of. My graduating class was 1000 people strong. It's an odd mix of people I knew vaguely through Girl Scouts and Rainbow Girls and my love of theatre. NOT the popular ones. I never knew those kids... was never one of them... didn't really want to be... wouldn't have known what to do if I'd been asked.
Frankly the last forty years of "lostness" is a lot like my 3 years of high school: I wandered around, right under everyone's noses, hardly ever noticed, hardly ever spoken to.... shy, dreamy and into my own fantasy world of books and plays... I was hardly much of a target for notice.
So, now: the big question...will I go to the reunion, or not? What would the benefit be? It turns out that two of the people I'd want to see again are dead and the other three are lost like I was.
So, ladies, have any of you done the class reunion thing? Was it good? Bad? Indifferent?
What do you think I should do?
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||Susan Terbay from Dayton OH wrote:
My last class reunion was my 35th. I have to say that was a fun one. The whole evening was laid back - with our music, and just people getting together talking and sharing. We were all in a different place in our lives I guess any way I'm glad I went. I had gone to the 20th and 25th - of which the 25th was a bummer. I also went with another friend - and then we met up with others - so that helped too.
I guess my answer would be - what do you want to do?
||Ebie Brown from Saratoga Springs NY wrote:
I went to the 25th and had a blast--saw people I'd forgotten about, and one guy who was a friend after high school, who had "gone native" and was living on the beach! I half thought he was nuts and half envied him... I'm seriously thinking about the 40th, which will be next year. Have you got a friend to go with? That takes some of the sting out of it. Can't wait to hear what you decide!
||Sharon Salomon from Phoenix AZ wrote:
I missed the few reunions my Class of 62 had. I wish there were more because I would most certainly attend. I didn't know many of the people in my huge class but I would love to see those I did know and I would like them to see me!!! So, yes, I think you should go.
||Sue Ann Crockett from Ferndale WA wrote:
I think if you're wondering about it there's at least a tiny part of you that wants to do it.. and maybe will regret it if you don't. I've never gone to one of mine.. but I have a 40th coming up in 3 more years. In a class of almost 700 I was close to only a few, but I would recognize many more. Maybe I'll chance it. Let us know what you decide to do!
||Suzanne Caplan from PA wrote:
I have attended one out of the three we had. I worked on all of the committees and had a chance to connect to many during that process. I had changed a lot in many ways and my patience with some of the behaviors that have not gone away, is limited. We were a small mid year class with big June classes after us so the experience was different. My sister has not gone to her renunions either. I am curious as well about the decision but I would not give you any advice about it.
||CJ Golden from Newtown CT wrote:
Interesting topic. I have never been to a reunion; never wanted to go because I convinced myself that:
1)Everyone would be bs-ing about how fabulous their lives are, so why bother.
2)My life is so full that I don't have room for anyone from the past
3)It would be too difficult to enjoy myself when I felt I had to take care of my husband who didn't know anyone.
None of that, of course, is true. They were just excuses to hide the fact that I just was not feeling good about who I was at the times of the reunions.
I feel great now - so where's the reunion when I want one?
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