Family of Origin, Family of Choice
5/6/2012 - Suzanne Caplan
I spoke with my sister this morning, first time in a month. We are not estranged, we are just not familiar. She has never shared much with me and I feel as if she does not know me at all. It is like living in a difficult marriage, you observe the nicities and long for the warmth.
Over the years, I have learned to create a family of friends and have the same crew around for over 40 years. We are growing older together and we are kind to each other and laugh about our the shared absurdities of time. Some things have not changed at all and some, mostly us are almost unrecognizeable.
I am a bit of a loner by choice but there is always someone to call and plan with....I spent days with my dearest friend at the Jersey Shore and we had hours upon hours to talk and do things. It inspired me to start writing another book.
By I must admit to a longing that my own sister loved me more. We started life together and I hope our paths intersect again sometime.
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| 5/6/2012 |
Christy Steiger from Crown Point IN wrote:
My brother and I are not close. I, too, long for a "real" brother -- the kind some of my friends have. I am more fortunate in my sister. I understand your longing. I have done exactly what you have done. I have an adopted family too, although a bit smaller than yours. We are indeed fortunate that other people like us!
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| 5/9/2012 |
Joanne Bolivar from West Linn OR wrote:
My sis is 2 yrs younger with a brother in between.The only thing in common is our parents.I have a few very close friends to cry, laugh and share with and then enjoy my alone time. She is surrounded by people.My BFF has a sister that doesn't like her because of political differences.We decided to become our own sisterhood.She has cried on my shoulder when divorcing and then rejoicing in a new marriage. She held me together through the death of two children.My husband says she is the perfect adopted sis.Watching sisters together can give me pause for thought but then I have my BFF sister.
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